How Holding Onto Grudges is Holding You Back

Dr. Debi Silber
3 min readSep 20, 2023

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Forgiveness isn’t just a buzzword; it’s a game-changer. When we hang on to anger and refuse to forgive, we’re basically playing with fire. In this post, we’ll break down seven solid reasons why holding onto grudges can be dangerous and why choosing to forgive can set you free.

Stress and Anxiety:

Picture this: you’re holding onto a grudge, and it’s like carrying around a backpack full of rocks everywhere you go. That emotional baggage triggers stress within your body, flooding your body with cortisol and adrenaline, which can lead to all sorts of health issues.Forgiveness, on the other hand, is like taking off that backpack and feeling lighter.

Crumbling Relationships:

Withholding forgiveness is like a wrecking ball for relationships. It builds walls and makes it impossible to connect. The result? Resentment, mistrust, and drama that can tear relationships apart. Forgiveness is the glue that holds relationships together. That’s not saying that you’re not supposed to express your needs, create boundaries that work for you, and let someone know what’s no longer acceptable. It’s what happens after those experiences that makes all the difference.

Emotional Rollercoaster:

When you don’t forgive, you’re keeping all those negative emotions bottled up inside. That emotional turmoil leads to mood swings, anger issues

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Dr. Debi Silber
Dr. Debi Silber

Written by Dr. Debi Silber

Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute https://pbtinstitute.com helps people heal from the trauma of betrayal.

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