Rebuilding a Relationship After Betrayal

Rebuilding a relationship after betrayal can be a challenging process. Is it possible? Yes, when both people are willing to do the hard work to recreate something new. Now, if you’re the betrayed, I can already hear you saying: “But I didn’t do anything, why should I have to do anything to create something new?”

You don’t have to do anything at all.

You can heal yourself and move along. However, if you’re willing to do your work to heal (by moving through The 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough you won’t miss any steps), you can use the trauma as a catalyst for transformation.

While rebuilding requires work on both sides, it’s also important to know that It’s not your fault that your partner made the decision to betray. That was their choice. Whatever led them to betray is for them to work through and while there may be reasons, those reasons are never an excuse for the behavior.

So while betrayal destroys the old relationship along with the rules that went with it, rebuilding (whether you’re rebuilding yourself only or rebuilding yourself and something new with the person who hurt you), it’s your opportunity to become the strongest, most confident, resilient and healed version of you because of it. It’s your opportunity to set new boundaries, decide what no longer works for you and make decisions based on what you may see so clearly now.

For the betrayer, it’s an opportunity to heal whatever led to their decisions while also rebuilding…