What is Post Betrayal Syndrome?

You couldn’t brace yourself, because you never saw it coming. You didn’t have your guard up because you thought you were safe. It never crossed your mind that the person you loved, you trusted, you felt safe with — would ever hurt you. You gave your heart, your love, your loyalty, and your trust. One day out of the blue, you make a painful discovery — and that one life-altering moment gets forever tattooed on your mind and on your heart.

It’s as if the person you loved, the one you trusted, just took a mask off revealing who they had been this whole time. You feel like you were sucker-punched, nothing makes sense so then you frantically start questioning everything, including yourself. That’s what it feels like to be blind-sided by betrayal. How do I know? That’s what happened to me.

I felt so sad, so hurt and so confused, the same way that you might be feeling now. That confusion sent me on a search for answers. I was desperate to figure out how the mind works, why we do what we do and how I could heal. That search led to a Ph.D. program in Transpersonal Psychology. While I was there, I did a study — I studied how we experience betrayal. What holds us back? What helps us heal? What happens to us physically, mentally, and emotionally when the people closest to us lie, cheat, and deceive. That study made three groundbreaking discoveries and Post Betrayal Syndrome…