Why Forgiveness is So Hard…And Why We Should Do It Anyway

Dr. Debi Silber
3 min readMar 1

Forgiveness is a complex and multi-faceted concept that can be difficult for many people. It’s not a “one and done” act but instead, a practice you choose to do.

It also doesn’t make sense to the logical, rational mind.

Think about it, someone does something hateful/harmful/hurtful and forgiveness says; “Yes, and forgive anyway.”

So why is forgiveness so hard?

Here are a few reasons:

  1. Emotional pain: Forgiving someone who has hurt
Dr. Debi Silber

Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute https://pbtinstitute.com helps people heal from the trauma of betrayal.